Find a Reason to say YES!

This morning I was on a zoom call, and our host was talking all around GOALS and BELIEFS, and it got me thinking.

Other people hold us back.

Our host was sharing some of the big goals which she has set for 2023, and how she had shared one of them with a close friend. That friend instantly went on to say "well, you'll never stick to that".

Now, her friend didn't mean anything by that comment, but what it did was plant a seed of doubt our host's mind:

Could she achieve this goal? Was she capable of making it happen? Was she thinking too big?

I can guarantee, that at some point in your life, you have set a goal and someone has made a similar, if not, the exact same comment to you. Am I right?

Why do they do this?

It's important to remember, that most people aren't trying to hurt you with these comments.

They aren't hoping to stop you from taking action, or to put you off. They are simply PROJECTING.

Projection is taking an internal feeling you are having and pushing it onto someone else. An example of my projection, was when I have felt jealous, and I would put the blame on my partner for causing me to feel this way.

Projection commonly happens when someone feels triggered or threatened by words or actions of another.

What likely happened in this scenario, was that our host shared a big goal, and her friend judged her capability of achieving it, on her own limiting beliefs. It is not always a conscious thought, a lot of the time these comments come out before we even think about them. I know I have made similar remarks towards people when they have shared their goals with me in the past.

How to overcome this?

I have shared this with you because it's important to remember two things:

How someone else reacts is not your problem. Their belief in your ability to do something is not fact, it is not a personal attack on you, but merely a doubt in their own mind. Be kind, and simply let the comment go over your head.
Don't use their reaction, as an excuse not to go for your goals! You might find it to be a motivator, and actually you could use it to prove everyone wrong.

If you are still working on yourself, and people's comments can knock you off balance, I would suggest keeping your goals to yourself.

Not in a shameful way, but so you can protect your energy! If you are more likely to take consistent action towards your goal without input from anyone else, then do it. A lot of people have forgot what it's like to dream because of the world we live in today, so don't fall victim to that same feeling.

People will always find 100 reasons why you can't, won't, or shouldn't go for your goals, so it's up to you to find just one reason why you can, will and should! Everyone can believe you won't achieve it, but if you believe, then you will achieve it.

Now,

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P.s. Make sure you catch yourself before doing the same thing to someone else. If someone chooses to share their goals with you, ignore the doubtful comments that might spring to mind, and say something encouraging. You might just be the first and only person who does.